Who's to Blame?

Thomas and I had a talk the other day about parenting. 

And kids these days.

So many people talk about the problems with "kids these days," but ya know what? Maybe the problem isn't the kids. 

I think the problem is "parents these days." 

I especially see this at Target.

And in the schools.

There's something wrong with the majority of parenting.

Maybe I have no place to write the post I'm about to write, seeing as I'm not a parent myself yet, but hey. It's my blog, I'll write what's on my mind. 

So many parents are no longer acting as true parents, but much more like friends. 
While working at Target, I've noticed that parents don't discipline nearly as much as they used to.
If a child asks for something, maybe they'll get a no, but they'll probably get a yes.
If they do get a no, they'll whine, or cry, or throw a tantrum.
And then they'll get what they've asked for.
9 times out of 10.


When it comes to school, parents are much more likely to support the student than the teacher in cases.
If a student has missing work, it's the teacher's fault.
Their student definitely turned it in, the teacher must have lost it. 
If they have zeros or bad grades, it's the teacher's fault.
The teacher grades poorly. 
Or assigns too much work. 
Or is unfair.
If a student complains to a parent about the way a teacher works, the parent always sides with the child, never the teacher. 


And kids never seem to be disciplined these days.
No grounding.
No loss of phone, computer, or video game privileges. 
No spankings.
Nothing.
They don't know the value of work either.
Kids these days are sooo lazy. 
They sit in front of computer or TV all day, what do you expect?
And most don't know the value of a dollar either.
Mom and dad give them all the moola they need.


And don't even get me started on the way kids dress these days.
Parents let their little girls dress like 20 year old whores. 
It's disgusting to be in a middle school with 12, 13 and 14 year old girls who look like their about to go work at the local Hooters or club.
I'm talking skin tight mini skirts, midriff-bearing tshirts, cleavage-showing tanktops, high heels, and more makeup than a clown wears. 
It's uncomfortable to even look at!
And it's not like girls are sneaking these clothes to school and changing once they arrive, because I see little girls dressed like that out shopping with their moms or out to eat, or wherever! I don't get it!
And then we talk about how teen pregnancy is on the rise.
Well, let's let our kids dress the way they do.
Oh, and then let them watch and listen to the things they do.
Songs about bitches and hoes, sex (in every possible form), one night stands, clubs, hookups, drugs, and so much more being cool.
There is no possible way anyone can try and argue that media does not influence us. It does. So why don't we control the media better?


And then there's just the plain sad part:
kids don't know how to play anymore.
They don't go outside to play.
Sitting infront of a TV on Call of Duty is "playing." 
What happened to go outside and getting dirty?
Grass stains? Mud stains? Holes in your jeans?
REAL holes...not holes that the fashion industry has pre-made into your $80 jeans you bought. 
It's just sad to me. 
But, again, maybe this isn't my place.
Maybe I don't know what I'm talking about.
Or maybe I do. 
Maybe when I do have kids, I'll find myself just following the trend in parenting these days. I just sure hope not. 


I think it's time to stop saying, "Kids these days..."
Maybe we need to change our focus: "Parents these days..."