Attention Waiter Haters

Waiter Haters are so annoying. I don't understand why people are sooo against people waiting for missionaries, whether it's a girl waiting for her boyfriend or a guy waiting for his girlfriend. First and foremost people need to remember it's none of their damn business. I hate when people tell me it's such a waste to put my life on hold for two years while Tom is on his mission. Well, newsflash, I'm not putting my life on hold. I'm still going to school full time. Still working nearly full time. Still going out with friends. Still spending time with family. Still living my life. How can people say I'm putting it on hold? Or wasting two years? It's not like I stay locked in my room crying all day every day. It's not like I have become totally and completely antisocial.

I hate when people tell me I should date; that I don't even know what's out there. They tell me I should be dating a variety of guys to find the right one who fits me best. They say I that I can't say Tom is the best guy for me when he's the only long-term relationship I've ever had. But what I don't understand is, if Tom and I fit together so flippin' well, what's the point in dating and trying to find someone else? I know how perfect Tom and I are together. He makes me laugh when I wanna cry. We build each other up. We have loads and loads of fun togher. We strengthen each other's testimonies. We care deeply for each other. Tom is everything I could ever need and more than I ever could have hoped for. Why would I bother looking for someone else when I have someone as amazing as Thomas in my life? Someone who makes me feel like I am flying every day?

People say I am a distraction to Thomas, that I will take away from his mission. People have no idea the effect I have on Thomas while he is gone. I send him a "scripture of the week" every week. I look up old talks and articles and send them to him. I share my missionary moments here at home with him. I give him support and help when he's had a rough week. I pray for him. I do nothing but support and uplift him. How could that be taking away from his mission? Thomas is not distracted by me at home. He does not worry about me while he's away because he knows how deeply I love him, he knows my heart belongs to him and only him, so he is not afraid of losing me. Yes, I tell him I love him. Yes, I tell him I miss him. But that is not a distraction. That is a reminder that I am all his.

Thomas has said he's had to deal with "waiter haters" on his mission as well. Members of the church tell him he should not have me at home, that I am a bad influence and a distraction. That it will end up with me writing him a Dear John letter so he should end it himself before it happens. I'm sorry he has to deal with people like that; I can't imagine that having people, members none the less, plant seeds in his head that I am not going to be there for him after two years is a good thing for Thomas. People say I am a distraction and a bad thing for him, yet it's the people who are telling him these things while he's gone that are the ones that will be distracting him.

I know that I am nothing but a good thing for Thomas on his mission. I try very hard to be the positive, supportive, encouraging girlfriend that he needs. I try to help strengthen his testimony and help make these two years the best two years of his life. And I know, that in the next year when he comes home, that it will be into my arms he falls into. I will still be here waiting for him, loving him more than ever. And when that day comes, I will tell all the waiter haters out there, "I told ya so."