I hate hypocrites. They are probably my biggest pet peeve. I can't stand it. But the thing that probably bothers me more than hypocrites is when people aren't honest with you.
I hate it when someone gets mad at you for whatever reason and then they don't tell you. Instead, they decide to talk about you behind your back and/or treat you differently expecting you to figure out on your own what you did to piss them off. So frustrating. In Res Life we have a thing called "Direct Dialing" - when you have a problem with someone, you go straight to that person and work things out instead of going behind their back...people need to learn how to do that more often.
I think it's a girl thing. Girls are never ever straightforward with you. I think that's why I get along better with guys than with girls. If you piss a guy off or annoy a guy, they'll tell ya straight up. They are blunt and honest and straight to the point. In other words, they are easy to understand. Girls, girls are totally different. You piss one of your girl friends off, and she'll give you the cold shoulder. But not only will she treat you bad, but she'll start talking to all your other friends behind your back about how big of a "B" you are or whatever the case. And half the time you have no idea what you did. You probably made a comment that she misconstrued to take as you calling her fat. Or maybe you hugged her boyfriend an extra .5 seconds too long. Or maybe you never text her back. Whatever the case, it's usually a little thing blown completely outta proportion.
And don't even try talking to the girl about it, you'll never be able to defend yourself. Because she is always right. It is always her way or no way. You are always in the wrong. So you just suck it up, admit that you were being a crappy friend (even when you still don't understand what you did to cause her to give you the cold shoulder for two weeks), and go out shopping or on a dinner date.
...Wow, I totally sound like a guy right now...But seriously, girls need to learn how to "direct dial" when they have an issue. If I did something to upset my friend or make them angry, I would like to know so I can fix things and make them better. Nothing can be solved with talking behind closed doors and giving the cold shoulder. Guys seem to have this skill down pretty well.
Katie,
ReplyDeleteTo me it sounds like you're doing just what you're complaining about. You're talking behind people's backs through this blog and that makes you a hypocrite as well, which you stated was your biggest pet peeve. This clearly was some rant about a problem you're having with someone but maybe you should look at why they would have a problem with you too. Just remember this is a public blog and the person you're complaining about could read this too, which could cause them to be mad at you when they might not have ever been in the first place.
Thank you for your advice, because yes, this was a rant about something happening and yes, it does make me a hypocrite. But I have tried talking to this certain someone who has been treating me a certain way for months and nothing is getting resolved, so I needed to rant. Perhaps my blog wasn't the best place for it though, I do agree.
ReplyDeleteHa, I definitely know some guys who do this too. And I vote the isn't terribly hypocritical, no names were named.
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